31 December 2016

Writing For Myself

I have been writing more often for myself -- personal posts on my private blog. I feel satisfaction in doing that. I did finally have an idea I felt comfortable submitting for publication, only to find out that Scary Mommy has stopped paying for original work. Without the incentive of $100, I have no desire to have an article published, at this point. So, for now, I am going to continue to write for myself.

It is looking more and more like my first published article may end up being my only. It would have been hard to top that, anyway; it is still being shared and read and is now at 63.4K total Facebook reactions!

18 July 2016

Fresh Out Of Ideas

Well, as I expected, the piece I submitted on a whim about a trending topic was not accepted. In fact, the very next day they had published an article on the very subject by one of their staff writers (and it was way better than mine).

As for the article I have been apprehensive about submitting, I tried to submit it again and had a weird thing happen with the email. I believed it went through but now I am not certain since I never got the automatically generated reply they usually send when the receive a submission. Either way, that was my third attempt to submit it and I will not try again. It seems clear that this is not meant to be! I honestly thought this article was better than my first but the subject matter made me feel vulnerable. Whether it never got through or it did and was rejected, it seems that maybe it is for the best that it will not be published.

My first article is still being shared and read! It is now at 40.9K total Facebook reactions according to the Scary Mommy website! 

For now, I have nothing more I want to share so publicly. I am all out of ideas for that platform -- for now. I am sure inspiration will strike again and $100 is a lovely incentive to give it a try. In the meantime, I have plenty to catch up on for my blogs.

10 July 2016

Surprise Inspiration

I submitted my second article tonight, but it was not what I had planned to submit next!

The article that I first tried to submit on June 8th -- only to realize the submissions had just closed -- and that I tried to resubmit on July 1st -- only to still receive the same message about submissions being closed -- I have not yet tried to resubmit again. As I said before, I am actually a little nervous about that article. The truth is, it is a subject that brings up what I consider to be one of my failings as a mother. Though I know that I am not alone, and I believe it will be relatable to many moms, it still is a subject I am a tad apprehensive about sharing so publicly. The fact that I have had made two attempts to submit that have rebounded, has only added to my apprehension. Still, I do believe I will try to resubmit, one more time.

In the meantime, I had inspiration strike tonight and whipped up a quick, light-hearted "Three Reasons..," post and sent it right off. It is a current, trending topic and their site does say that those sorts of subjects are usually handled by staff writers, but I gave it a shot anyway. In a week or less, I will know if they want to publish it.

While I am here, I'll just take a second to update that my first published piece is now at 27.1K total Facebook reactions according to the Scary Mommy website!

01 July 2016

Well, That Was Fun!

I had my first article published earlier this week. To be honest, I was just excited that a company was willing to pay me to publish something I wrote. I don't know exactly what I was expecting, but the response was incredible to me!

Less than two hours after Scary Mommy shared the article on Facebook, the post had over 3,000 reactions (likes, loves, laughs) and more than 500 shares! The next morning, my husband noticed that my article was listed as "trending" on the Scary Mommy website.
Twenty-four hours after Scary Mommy shared on Facebook, their post had 9.6K reactions, 1.7K shares and 1.1K comments! On their website, they have a counter tracking reactions across all the different shares and that had reached 17.8K!

Fourty-eight hours after Scary Mommy shared, their Facebook post had over 10K reactions, 1.9K shares and 1.2K comments! It was still listed as "trending" and their website Facebook reaction counter had reached 23.2K! The next day, that counter surpassed 25K!

As I write this, four days after Scary Mommy's Facebook share, the reaction counter on their website is at 25.8K!  It has been pointed out to me that this number only represents reactions on Facebook -- the number of times it has been read is exponentially greater! It has also been shared beyond Facebook, on Twitter, Pinterest, and elsewhere!

I never imagined my article would be read by so many! I was told that lots of fellow Mommas seemed to really relate to what I wrote. I did not read the comments, even though some friends told me there were many wonderful, positive things written there (I know that even if there were a thousand positive comments and just a few negative, I would end up obsessing over the negative ones).

But, it was not just that over 25,000 people have "liked" my words that made it incredible, it was also that those who know me personally were so wonderfully supportive! It was an lovely experience.

The excitement is dying down now. It has been fun -- like my 15 minutes of (semi-anonymous) fame.

I do plan to try to get published again. Actually, I tried already. I had another article I sent in back on June 8th, only to realize that Scary Mommy had just closed submissions for the month.

It may seem odd, but I am actually more nervous to submit that article now that this first one did so well! One reason is that the subject is more personal and I now have a better appreciation for just how many people will read it. Another reason is that the subject is sure to elicit a more mixed response; it is very likely that there will be just as much of a negative reaction as there is a positive one. That makes me nervous.

Still, I am going to send it in when submissions open up again. Who knows, it may not even be accepted. We will just have to see how it all goes from here.

20 June 2016

I May Never Write A Book

At this point in my life, I have no aspirations to write children's books as I did in my youth or college years. Nor do I have any desire to write a book, as I once did, about our crazy journey to becoming a family -- falling in love, getting engaged, cancer diagnosis, preservation of fertility options, cancer remission, IVF/FET, complications and near-death during childbirth, gestational surrogacy, and still ending up with the family we always dreamed of. "Of course, there is so much more than this to who I am.. but this is what I'll focus on when I write my book," is what the final line of my Facebook bio has read for years.

I may never write a book.

Though I may imagine and quip, I may never actually want to write a book.

But, I enjoy writing.

I am compelled to journal about our lives and write blog posts and essays that sprinkle my personality about for others to discover. I strive to be understood. Mostly, I write because I hope that I will be remembered. Whether I live to be 100 and celebrate my 75th wedding anniversary with John, as I hope to do, or I die in a freak accident tomorrow, or if my death falls somewhere in the middle, as is most likely, I want my kids, my loved ones -- present and future generations -- to have a chance to know me better.

It is a bit selfish, I suppose, to hope to be understood, to hope to be known better, to hope to be remembered. Whether or not that it the result, I find writing to be therapeutic. I feel almost a sense of relief when I can take something that has been bouncing around in my head and write it out.

Often, my writings probably hold little appeal to anyone. I write about memories I want preserved and my thoughts and opinions. I do not begin to presume I am important enough that these things matter to the masses. But, occasionally, I have something to share that may have a broader appeal. And, almost on a whim, I decided to explore that a few weeks ago.

I was scrolling around on Facebook, liking friends' pictures and reading articles. After clicking through to a site to read one article, I clicked around that website and I came across a page that said, "Write For Us." It listed their guidelines and stated that they would pay $100 for original work they chose to publish. That caught my interest. Our travel budget would love an extra $100.

A few days later, I submitted an essay; it was something I had tried to shorten and anonymize from a piece I had already written. A week passed. It was rejected.

I had another essay I had been working on during that week; it was something I was planning to blog about but I decided to write it specifically with submission in mind, formatted a bit more to the site's styling. I submitted it on May 24th. On May 26th, I received an email saying it was accepted! It is scheduled to be published on June 27th!

I must say, I was pretty excited and even a bit proud, though it is no major accomplishment. Until now, I have only told a couple people because, since it is not actually published yet, I am almost afraid to somehow jinx it! I am anxiously awaiting June 27th to see how this plays out. I am nervous about putting myself out there on a site that has over 2 million followers on Facebook. I will probably decide not to ever read the comments. I do plan to try to submit more, but I have no idea if this piece being accepted was a fluke or if I could actually get published repeatedly. I don't know how much I have to say that I would be comfortable sharing so publicly. I guess time will tell.

For now, I am content with journaling our lives and my thoughts on our private family blog, writing about our travels to share on our public blog, and occasionally submitting a piece for publication to see if I can add a few dollars to our travel budget.

Wish me luck!